I got this e-mail a few days back from a friend. Instead of forwarding it to friends who may be needing a little help getting over the their past relationships, I am posting this for everyone - just in case, you know, the world suddenly stops when he/she storms out of your life. You never know. So why don’t you try reading and absorbing this simple and direct tips to eschew tripping over heartaches - it might come in handy.
5 Worst Post-breakup Behaviours
Five post-breakup behaviours to avoid by Laurie Frankel, author of the It’s Not Me…It’s You! A Modern Girl’s Guide to Breaking Up (Sourcebooks Hysteria, 2004) offers these five post-breakup tips.
1. Do not initiate or respond to any contact with your ex
Frankel says “Once you’ve had your 12 ending e-mails and five final phone discussions…guess what? You’re done. Give hope an inch and you’ll be back in bed with your ex in no time…great in the moment, lousy the moment after.”
2. Don’t prolong cynical thoughts
Emotions like anger, sadness and blame are unavoidable but consistently asking yourself why the relationship soured will not give you peace or courage to get on with your single life. “Be good to yourself,” says Frankel. “When a negative thought cycle begins, notice it, acknowledge it — then end it. Call a friend (for support).”
3. Get rid of objects that remind you of your ex
That pillow case that smells like his hair; those photographs of your trip to Niagara Falls — get rid of them. “We humans endow things with meaning and the longer those meaningful things are around, the longer you will take to heal and move on,” says Frankel. “Every time you come across an item…it picks at the wound.”
4. Refrain from stalking
If monitoring his every move has become your favourite pastime, you need to put down the binoculars and force some distance between you and your ex. “If you still have mutual friends, resist grilling them for an update. Third-party information just sets the healing clock back to zero,” says Frankel.
5. Don’t jump into another relationship too soon
“Give yourself some time to attend to your wounds and reorient yourself,” says Frankel. Seeking comfort in the arms of another soon after a breakup is not fair to both parties as emotions are running high and you both may have different agendas as to how serious things could get.
If revenge seems irresistible, Frankel warns that it’s just a hostile feeling and not reality. Expel those negative vibes by talking to a trusted friend or therapist and hit the gym for a stress-busting workout. Remember: you are not in this alone — you are surrounded by friends and family who have, at one time or another, experienced the same situation and can offer a shoulder of support.
This is how to deal with it, apparently, there is no better way. It’s hard to do at first, but you can do anything with enough determination, right? And please, if you think you are dangerously close to being a monster ex, nix that attitude ASAP.There are some things which I don’t exactly agree with, but well..you have to figure it out yourself. I think you’ll soon find out the best way to cope up. I found mine. My God, it’s been over a year!Don’t I deserve more than just congratulations? Haha. Right now, I’m okay with him still texting me, with him still checking out my profiles, with him still asking me questions that shouldn’t come up anymore —I’m now 100% okay with this. I’ve always been okay withj it. I was never the guilty one for letting go. Actually, I just chatted with him over YM before I started blogging (haha) and it’s no big deal anymore. What’s the use of fussing over things like this, right? Ha! I told you, I am so hard to get over with! You could have listened. Nyahaha! Peace out.
And oh, remember… it’s just a state of mind. Like Dr. Burke said, you would only be able to forget,if you try. 
Try to what?
Try to revitalize the “moments” .. again?
Or try to press F5 on your life so that the current screen would somehow be updated to its current dashboard?
and oh, come on!
comment by Pangz — August 30, 2007 @ 5:50 pm
if you try to get it out of your wrecked mind. that is.
and oh, c’mon! am i sensing bitterness here?! hahaha. don’t tell me your on that damn side again. Haha!
“Or try to press F5 on your life so that the current screen would somehow be updated to its current dashboard? :D”
no, you can try CONTROL+ALT+DEL. hahaha.
comment by Sarj — August 30, 2007 @ 9:25 pm
haha!
comment by Pangz — September 3, 2007 @ 7:59 am